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When creating a legacy project for children I suggest seeing what they like and starting there. You will get led in the right direction by the clients themselves. If they like music, maybe build a playlist of their favorite songs. If they like art, perhaps make projects for friends or family to receive as special future gifts on dates the clients will miss, like birthdays, holidays, etc. If they love sports and being active, you can create ideas around this. If you are looking for keepsakes for the family to remember them by, some ideas may be thumbprint necklaces, heartbeat recordings, group photos, and memories that were written together.
—Sara Sedlacek Yates
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WeRNative |
WeRNative is a Native-led organization that provides health resources and support for Native youth in the United States, including grief support services. The organization offers culturally sensitive and trauma-informed grief support services, such as counseling, traditional healing practices, and referrals to community resources. The services are designed to help Native youth and their families cope with the loss of a loved one and find healing in a way that is respectful of their cultural traditions and beliefs. |
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WeRNative also provides education and awareness about mental health and wellness, and advocates for the needs and rights of Native youth. The goal of the grief support services is to promote wellness and healing within Indigenous communities.
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Can you share some experiences of when the religion of the family is different from the knowledge of the doula? How does one handle lack of familiarity with the rituals, practices, or prayers? —Training Participant
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Educator Garrett Drew Ellis: Living in the religious space that I do, I have gone into spaces where religious practices were not my own. I will say I think there is an unnecessary fear of interacting with an individual spirituality. Research shows that spirituality is a huge part of people’s care at the end of life. And when it is not tended to, people sometimes have a harder time even with physical symptoms. So the doula has an opportunity to hold space for whatever the religious practice is. READ MORE
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Broaden the Space Around Your
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When my kids were very little and in full play mode, the noise would often overwhelm me. Sound has a direct connection to our brain that cannot be turned off. Even when we’re sleeping, sound is received and processed by the brain. If the sound perceived is novel or a warning of danger, it can evoke a sense of hypervigilance and even a flight-or-fight response. Sound inherently affects our nervous system. Listening to my kids play posed no “danger” to me, but my system was certainly processing it that way. I would feel jumpy and slightly irritated, and I had a deep sense of urgency to either stop the noise or flee from it.
Our house had stairs that led to the second floor and a small landing with an overlook, which allowed you to see down into the living room area. One day, feeling enveloped by their glee-filled, high-pitched noises, I became aware of the irritation in my body and that familiar feeling of wishing to evade the cacophony of sound. I’m not sure what spurred this idea, but that day, I walked halfway up the stairs and sat on the landing and just watched them play. I actively took some deep breaths, and as I watched them play, I told myself, “They are OK, you are OK, we are OK.” In no time at all, I noticed the sense of urgency dissipate; my skin no longer had that certain itch of irritation. I sat there for a few minutes and then went on about my day. READ MORE
—Omni Kitts Ferrara
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