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JUNE 2023

 JUNE 2023
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He Was My Heart Pet
He Was My Heart Pet
by Lara Stewart-Panko

Heart pet: This term denotes an animal who is a human’s soulmate, and my cat, Twix, and I were indeed that for each other. I wasn’t familiar with the term until Colleen Rolland used it as she supported me through the profound grief I experienced as the result of Twix’s death. Colleen is a pet loss and grief specialist, and the president of the Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement. I found her when I desperately Googled “pet grief support.”

Before Twix, I had experienced the loss of several pets with whom I was deeply bonded. But with him, it was altogether different. In fact, excepting some aspects of the grief I experienced when my father died, the depth and pain I felt approaching Twix’s death and the period afterward took me into territory I’d never been in before and have not been in since with subsequent deaths of both people and animals close to me. There were feelings I had no language for. Colleen met me in this profound space, bearing witness with compassion, total acceptance, and great understanding. She reflected my story back to me and suggested tools to help me move with my grief in ways that brought much peace and integration. She ensured I wasn’t alone in the abyss.

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doula Profile
Marquis Allen

Marquis is a native of Alabama (War Eagle :0) but lives in Memphis, Tennessee. He enjoys traveling and spending time with friends and family, as well as mentoring up-and-coming doulas and fellow doulas. I trained with INELDA in October 2021.

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Q&A with Marquis

When and why did you decide to become an end-of-life doula?

The long and short of why I became a doula is because of the unexpected passing of my grandfather. I was so busy trying to plan his homegoing that I wasn’t able to grieve, and something said, “This shouldn’t be normal, nor should anyone have to go through this.” After lots of research and digging, I found INELDA, and was blessed to be a scholarship recipient and a graduate of their training program. The rest is history.

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 Hospice End-of-Life Doula Training - July 29th thru 30th
UPCOMING EVENTS
Intensive End-of-Life Doula Training Event - July 14 - 16 DISCOVERY Call – End-of-Life Doula Certification


July 19 | WED 7pm ET

This Zoom meeting is for those interested in learning more about INELDA’s certification. We are excited to walk you through the approach and process to become an INELDA-certified end-of-life doula. Certification involves direct work with dying individuals and their loved ones through a hospice program, a private practice, or work within your community while receiving personalized one-on-one feedback and guidance.

This call has limited seats and is open to all. | REGISTER

 

Intensive End-of-Life Doula Training Event - July 27 - 29 •INTENSIVE• End-of-Life Doula Training 


July 27– 29 | THU 6pm-10pm & FRI/SAT 9pm-6:30pm ET

This ONLINE intensive training is open to all and will meet for three sessions from Thursday to Saturday; one four-hour session and two nine-and-a-half hour sessions. The training is limited to 30 individuals and will investigate models of care, deep active listening, ritual and ceremonies, vigil planning, and more. During INELDA’s intensive End-of-Life Doula Training, all material presented in our standard training will be covered. Click to see the full schedule | REGISTER

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MEDIA OF THE MONTH
Media of the Month - Ride or Die: Loving Through Tragedy, A Husband’s Memoir
Ride or Die: Loving Through Tragedy, A Husband’s Memoir

by Jarie Bolander, SparkPress (2023)

Jarie Bolander wrote this raw, heartfelt tribute to his wife, Jane. He chronicles her illness and his experience in order to help men and the people who love them through their loss and grief. Ride or Die offers a detailed exploration of Jarie’s experience of grief, in the hopes that others suffering through it will not feel so alone. READ EXCERPT

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A Call for Continued LGBTQIA2S+ Aging Research
by Loren Talbot

From dealing with inequities in health care delivery to microaggressions to fear of mistreatment in eldercare settings, LGBTQIA2S+ adults face unique challenges as they age—and they deserve a health care system that delivers affirming care.

A Call for Continued LGBTQIA2S+ Aging Research

There has been an underwhelming amount of research and funding regarding how the LGBTQIA2S+ community ages. Additionally, research had failed to address intersectionality when discussing and evaluating the challenges of delivering supported care to seniors in the community. This has been slowly changing due to advocacy work, inclusion of sexual orientation and gender identity in public health studies, and a shift in a more diverse aging population.

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INELDA UPDATE
PRIDE AND BIPOC MENTORING NOW QUARTERLY

If you are a INELDA-trained doula who is a member of the LGBTQIA2S+ community, note that we are moving to four quarterly meetings with our PRIDE community of doulas. The meetings will be centered on a specific topic, but all ideas and thoughts are welcome. The PRIDE group is open and available at no additional cost to current Tier 2 and Tier 3 INELDA-trained members.

INELDA’s Black, Indigenous, People of Color (BIPOC) Peer Group is an educator-facilitated, open discussion about working with dying people and their loved ones. This group offers participants a safe listening space to connect and to cultivate conversations that are specific to the needs of doulas within the BIPOC community. The quarterly BIPOC group is also open and available at no additional cost to current Tier 2 and Tier 3 INELDA-trained members. READ MORE INELDA Update - PRIDE and BIPOC Mentoring sessions

 


AUGUST REFRESHER ANNOUNCED

We have added an End-of-Life Doula Training Refresher August 14 to 16. The course will be held for three evening sessions at 6pm ET. This training is for those interested in accessing the latest concepts and techniques explored in our current end-of-life doula curriculum. If your INELDA training occurred before September 2021, we have much to share with you. READ MORE


INELDA DOULAS CERTIFIED AND RECERTIFIED!
The INELDA End-of-Life Doula Certification and Recertification involve direct work with dying individuals and their loved ones through a hospice program, a private practice, or working within the community. These doulas have just completed the certification or recertification requirements of 36 hours of end-of-life care-related activities required over the prior three years. READ MORE Certified Doula Congratulations
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INELDA’S JUNE WEBINAR
Monthly Webinar
Home Funerals and Community-Led After-Death Care
June 28 | WED 7-8:30pm ET

Did you know that home funerals are legal in every state? If you are hoping to support those who make this choice for themselves and their loved ones, learn more from the National Home Funeral Alliance, founded in 2010. We welcome Isabel Knight, president of NHFA and a human-centered designer in the deathcare space, as well as board member Angela Woosley, MA (she/they), a mortician and natural deathcare provider. Both trained as doulas and can provide guidance and insights to the work that you do.


Isabel is the president of the NHFA, an organization that educates individuals, families, and communities about caring for their dead. She is also a death doula, home funeral guide, and volunteer for the Funeral Consumers Alliance of Pennsylvania. Angela is a Minnesota-licensed mortician who taught in the University of Minnesota Program of Mortuary Science for over 10 years before founding Inspired Journeys LLC in 2020. She is on the board of NHFA.

 

Webinar Speakers - Isabel Knight & Angela Woosley

INELDA educator Kris Kington-Barker will moderate the webinar that will explore home funerals, community-led after-death care, policies on home funerals, useful resources, and more.

 Cost: Free with INELDA Tier 2 & 3 membership | Tier 1 and nonmembers $15

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PRACTICE CORNER
TOOLBOX TIPS
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Handling bedbugs is always a really difficult situation (and of course terrible when we’re trying to make the environment peaceful!). An exterminator is needed—at least two rounds of extermination, if not more, depending on the intensity—so the solution is not cheap.

As a doula, from my experience in hospice, I’ve worn an actual bedbug suit that covers your whole body, including your hair and shoes, and gloves. I also have bedbug spray that I put on the suit once it’s donned and spray on anything else I’m bringing in. I bring in only the bare minimum, preferably within a plastic bag, if possible. Take it off ASAP, throw out the suit, wash your clothes in hot water, and shower.

Mel Srolovitz

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SHARING SOURCES
National LGBT Cancer Network

The National LGBT Cancer Network focuses on supporting LGBTQIA+ people who are affected by cancer. It provides resources such as education and advocacy to improve the quality of cancer care for LGBTQIA+ individuals.

Sharing Sources - National LGBT Cancer Network

The organization offers an LGBTQIA+ peer-led cancer support group three times per week via Zoom and hosts a database of LGBTQIA+-friendly cancer care providers across the United States.

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ASK INELDA

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At the hospice I work at, there is not currently a role for end-of-life doulas. But I can see how my training would offer benefits and support at my hospice. How can I talk about offering more with my expanded skill set? —Training participant

Educator Omni Kitts Ferrara: The volunteer coordinator is a wonderful person to reach out to. One way you can help bridge any concerns that may come up is to offer a free workshop to volunteers about what an end-of-life doula is and the ways we show up to do this work. This can help dispel any misinformation and offers an opportunity to talk about how we can “fill the gaps.” Just having this first conversation with the coordinator often opens up conversations about the work we can bring to hospice, such as deep active listening, legacy work, and more. READ MORE

 

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Self-Care - Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin, MD
SELF-CARE
 

Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin, MD

 

Excerpt from chapter 5, “Real Self-Care Requires Boundaries: Moving Past Guilt”

My patient Angela, thirty-two, had a tendency to be the fixer in her household. Run out of toilet paper? She’d jump up for the Target run. Boyfriend locked out of apartment? She’d hop in a cab to save him. One day she shared a pretty revealing story with me. Angela and her boyfriend had recently moved in together and decided to adopt a puppy. She was juggling working part time as an executive assistant and getting her master’s degree in social work, and she was approaching her finals week. Not only that, on weekends, she had to do the clinical rotations required to finish her degree. One Saturday, her boyfriend was out with friends while she was at her clinical site. That morning they’d made a plan for him to be home by 3:00 p.m. to take the puppy, Elie, for a walk. She received a text from him at 2:45 p.m. saying that his buddy wanted to grab dinner together, so he wouldn’t be able to make it home to walk Elie. He wanted to know if Angela could finish up her work early and make it home. Angela immediately rushed to the rescue, quickly finishing the last of her charting and asking her supervisor if she could snake up her evening clinical shift the following weekend. READ MORE

—Pooja Lakshmin, MD

Permission from Viking, an imprint of Penguin Random House LLC, 2023.

 

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News Briefs
by Brandon Glick
Care Approach for Substance Users at End of Life
A new intervention study published in the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health looks at the preconceived notions surrounding recreational and medical substance use. The authors’ goals include creating a model for what end-of-life palliative care should look like for those using substances. Arguing for a holistic model that offers greater access to palliative care, the researchers stress the importance of the dissemination of information surrounding substance use near end of life. READ MORE  News Brief - Care Approach for Substance Users at End of Life
Deeper Understanding of Alzheimer’s and Dementia
Two new articles, published in Medical News Today and Science News respectively, have provided updates on treatments, prognoses, and diagnoses for dementia, specifically Alzheimer’s. Though it has long been posited that beta-amyloid and tau buildup is the first indicator of Alzheimer’s, recent research suggests that other biochemical factors may possess a great correlation, such as dysfunctional astrocytes. READ MORE
News Brief - Hospice Volunteering Down Postpandemic
Hospice Volunteering Down Postpandemic
In the wake of the COVID-19 lockdowns, hospice care facilities have been struggling to maintain consistent commitment from their volunteers. A Hospice News article by Holly Vossel examines impending reinstatement of the 5% rule (i.e., 5% of all hours worked by the hospice must come via volunteer) as hospices scramble to meet the requirement while also adjusting to the increasingly virtual preferences of their volunteers. READ MORE

The Final Word
My Father’s Mustache
by Ada Limón

Let us pause to applaud the white bell-bottom suit,

the wide flared collar, the black thick coiffed hair,

in this photo my father has sent of himself

at a gathering off of Sonoma Highway in the early 70s.

I can’t stop looking at the photo. This is swagger

that feels almost otherworldly, epic, like Lorca

Expounding in Buenos Aires, Not the form

but the marrow of the form. He is perfect there, my father

in the photo. I feel somehow I am perched on a bay laurel

branch nearby but not born yet. It’s in black and white, the photo.

You can see his grin behind his lush mustache. Is it time

that moves in me now? A sense of ache and unraveling,

my father in his pristine white suit, the eye of the world barely able

to handle his smooth unbroken stride. It’s been a year

since I’ve seen him in person, I miss how he points

to his apple tree and I miss his smooth face

that no longer has the mustache that I always adored.

As a child I once cried when he shaved it. Even then,

I was too attached to this life.

 
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