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MARCH 2023

 MARCH 2023
INELDA Newsletter - Notes for the Journey
NEWS BRIEFS MEDIA INELDA UPDATE PRACTICE CORNER EVENTS
WHY WE NEED CEREMONY: INVITING RITUAL IN
Why We Need Ceremony: Inviting Ritual In
by Megan Sheldon
A dear friend, Quanita Roberson, once told me that there’s a ceremony-shaped hole in our society right now. As soon as she said it, I realized that’s what I’ve been feeling my whole life.

 

I’ve always been drawn to ritual and ceremony. Yet because I’m not religious, nor do I hold strong cultural traditions, I never knew how to bring ritual into my secular life in a way that felt personal and meaningful. I was also cognizant of not wanting to appropriate from other cultures, and I didn’t want to get it wrong.

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doula Profile
David Copeland

David (he/him/his) is from Cincinnati. The founder of Live Without Regrets doula services, he is a part of the LGBTQIA2S+ community and has been serving the sick and dying for many years. An INELDA-trained end-of-life doula, David is also certified through the International Association of Professions Career College and is a licensed missionary reverend in the Love Church. His work as a doula is to serve the LGBTQIA2S+, elderly, terminally ill, dying, and their loved ones with dignity, grace, and love.

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Q&A with David

When and why did you decide to become an end-of-life doula?

I was called to death early. When I was growing up, my family believed in serving and meeting needs for their community. It was a part of our commitment to God and love for people. Mostly the women and some men in my family took me at an early age to nursing homes, hospitals, and homes to be present during a person’s end-of-life journey. This beautiful work has been passed down to me through my lineage. Although we never gave our work a name or title, we knew it was necessary for us to do. I don’t believe I had a choice to decide whether or not to serve the sick and dying. Death chose me, and I chose death back.
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 Nampa, ID - INELDA In-person End-of-Life Doula Training
UPCOMING EVENTS
Upcoming Events - End-of-Life Doula Training In-Person End-of-Life Training in Atlanta


March 31-April 2 | FRI 1pm-6pm & SAT/SUN 8:30am-6pm ET

This IN-PERSON training will follow our intensive training model, meeting for three sessions from Friday through Sunday at the Loudermilk Conference Center in Atlanta. Doula training is for those who intend to support the dying and their loved ones. Investigate models of care, deep active listening, ritual and ceremonies, vigil planning, and more. Training size is limited to 60 people. Click to see the full schedule. | REGISTER

Upcoming Events - End-of-Life Doula Training Refresher End-of-Life Training Refresher


April 4-8 | TUE/THU 6:30-9:30pm & SAT 9am-12pm ET

“Refresher” is a shared learning space where you can continue cultivating your gifts, connecting with the community, and exercising your creativity. This training is for those interested in accessing the latest concepts and techniques explored in our current end-of-life doula curriculum. If your INELDA training occurred before September 2021, we have much to share with you. Click to see the full schedule. | REGISTER

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MEDIA OF THE MONTH
Media of the Month - Palliative Touch
Palliative Touch: 
Massage for People at the End of Life 

by Cynthia Heep Spence, Handspring Publishing (2022)

Cindy Spence began her health care career as a Peace Corps volunteer in rural Guatemala, returning to the United States to complete a master’s degree in public health. She has been a massage therapist specializing in palliative care since 1999, after her father-in-law’s dying wish for gentle touch inspired her to attend massage school. Since that time, Cindy has completed more than 6,000 massages for people with advanced and terminal illness. She works at the T. Boone Pickens Center for Hospice and Palliative Care and teaches a 20-hour class on end-of-life massage to health care professionals, including EOL doulas.
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The Legacy of a Life While Contemplating a Good Death
by Angelyn C. Frazer-Giles, president of INELDA’s board of directors

According to a journal abstract from Social Science & Medicine, “People in Kwahu-Tafo, a rural town in Southern Ghana, regard a peaceful death as a ‘good death.’ ‘Peaceful’ refers to the dying person having finished all business and made peace with others before his/her death and implies being at peace with his/her own death. It further refers to the manner of dying: not by violence, an accident or a fearsome disease, not by foul means and without much pain. A good and peaceful death comes ‘naturally’ after a long and well-spent life. Such a death preferably takes place at home, which is the epitome of peacefulness, surrounded by children and grandchildren. Finally, a good death is a death which is accepted by the relatives.”

Bedside Woman with Sick individual - Considering Consent at End of Life Story

 

So, on Saturday, February 18, 2023, when the Carter Center announced that former President Jimmy Carter would be receiving hospice care at home, I was both saddened by what this decision essentially means for the former president and intrigued by the possibility of having broader discussions about hospice, and more specifically, end-of-life doulas.

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INELDA UPDATE
CONGRATULATIONS, INELDA-CERTIFIED DOULAS!

The INELDA End-of-Life Doula Certification involves direct work with dying individuals and their loved ones through a hospice program, a private practice, or working within your community. These doulas have completed the certification requirements of having worked directly with multiple people for 40 hours or more. We would like to congratulate the first cohort of 2023 INELDA-certified doulas for their commitment to the field and the people they serve:

  • Dawn Betts
  • Robert Cornett
  • Glendon Geikie
  • Anthea Grimason
  • Molly Hayes
  • Jackie Hook
  • David Robertson
  • Jill Waterman

Register for our free certification Q&A to learn more about the program on April 4 at 7:00pm ET.

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INELDA AND PAYPAL
Did you know INELDA is a nonprofit organization? Our scholarships program, INELDA’s People Experiencing Homelessness Project, and the general operating budget are supported by donations. We are happy to announce that we have set up a PayPal account to accept recurring donations. READ MORE PayPal Logo

 

 

 


RESEARCH OPPORTUNITY
Jacksonville State University Research | QR Code

Sarah Donley, a sociologist at Jacksonville State University in Alabama, is currently looking for research participants who work in the field of deathcare who would be willing to be interviewed and share their experiences.

This study has been approved by the Institutional Review Board at Jacksonville State University. Interviews will occur over the phone or on Zoom and take approximately one to one and a half hours. Participants will be compensated with a $10 Amazon gift card. READ MORE

 


FILM OPPORTUNITIES

Calling All Gen Z Doulas!

We have been contacted by a media company with a film opportunity for a Gen Z doula with a story to share, and with a client who is willing to share as well. If you are INELDA-trained and interested please reach out. The film company is willing to travel anywhere in the United States. READ MORE

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NYC Metro Area Doula Film Opportunity

Director Miho Sakai shared her film brief with INELDA: How can we spend the last days of our own lives meaningfully? An end-of-life doula can guide people to live fully during their final chapter. Our modern lifestyle, particularly advanced medical technology, has helped us ignore death in our daily life. When death approaches, we do not know how to face it. Family and friends often cannot help, as they are also at a loss. End-of-life doulas often fill in to help dying people be ready during their final days. READ MORE

Please contact Loren Talbot if interested in either film opportunity.


 

IN THE NEWS
  • This month INELDA was featured in a Media Hub article about death doulas who offer support from North Carolina.

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INELDA’S MArch WEBINAR
Monthly Webinar
Death Doula Voices: A Year Into the Russian Invasion of Ukraine
March 29 | WED 7-8:30pm ET
Join us for our conversation with Alla Savchenko and Sasha Leah Adina Wickenden, cofounders of Death Foundation, based in the Russian-speaking world. Both trained as end-of-life doulas with INELDA and focused their knowledge and skills to support their communities close at home, and as the war required, at a distance.

Alla had a former career as a model in Ukraine. After giving birth to her son and confronting her own mortality, Alla decided to explore death as a part of life. Sasha is a practicing death doula, writer and influencer in the Russian speaking world raising awareness about death and grief. One of the most important projects they’ve created so far is the death doula educational project for Russian-speakers.

Webinar Speaker - Alla Savchenko & Sasha Leah Adina Wickenden
INELDA educator Wilka Roig will moderate the conversation with Alla and Sasha about doula work during wartime, the processing of grief and trauma on the one-year anniversary of Russia president Vladimir Putin’s attack on Ukraine, and how to support people in the region who may have never heard of a death doula before.

 Cost: Free with INELDA Tier 2 & 3 membership | Tier 1 and non-members $15

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PRACTICE CORNER
TOOLBOX TIPS
Tool Box

I discovered this resource that could be helpful for doulas with clients who craft. The Loose Ends Project aims to match unfinished projects with volunteer finishers who complete and return the project to the intended loved one or their families. Crafts are often very personal, and this could be a good way to offer legacy project support. When crafters pass away midproject or are no longer able to carry on due to illness, they will often have a few unfinished items lying around. This program matches “project holders” with someone in their country who may be able to help complete the project.

—Dani Mateos

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SHARING SOURCES
The Trevor Project
The Trevor Project is an organization that helps LGBTQIA2S+ youth. The organization was founded in 1998 by three people who wanted to prevent suicide among LGBTQIA2S+ youth. The group has resources for young people who have lost a loved one, friend, or someone important to them. The Trevor Project provides counseling services through its 24/7 phone line, chat, and text service. Sharing Sources - The Trevor Project

It also has a website with articles, videos, and other resources to help LGBTQIA2S+ youth navigate grief. The Trevor Project’s goal is to create a safe and supportive community for  youth, even during difficult times such as grieving.

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ASK INELDA

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What happens if a family member says you are not the right doula for their person? —Participant from 2023 training

Educator Valoria Walker: As a volunteer doula, ask the family member to help you understand why you are not the right doula. Identify the problem. Do a self-evaluation of the skills and tools you provide to their person. If you must discontinue your doula role, look at it as a positive learning experience. If the problem appears navigable, give it another effort by talking to the family. Consider including their person in the conversation to find a win-win situation for all involved. The ultimate goal is to give patient- and family-centered care. You can offer referrals to other doulas as an option for the family—this may be a better fit. READ MORE

 

Please submit questions to [email protected]
Self-Care Prescription - Community Care vs. Self-Care
SELF-CARE PRESCRIPTION
 

Community Care vs. Self-Care

 

“Shouting ‘self-care’ at people who actually need community care is how we fail people,” Nakita Valerio stated in a Facebook post that went viral after the 2019 terrorist attack in New Zealand. The declaration from the award-winning writer, researcher, and Muslim community organizer caused a paradigm shift in how many people consider their own role in supporting the health of their communities while reevaluating the place for self-care in collective healing.

Self-care is often a temporary fix, and what Nakita is calling for is a transformation on how we as a society provide care. Nakita, the editor-in-chief of Religious and Socio-Political Studies Journal, defines community care in an interview with Mashable as “People committed to leveraging their privilege to be there for one another in various ways.” While self-care shows up as support for one’s own needs, what does it look like when we all collectively work together to heal each other? How can we show up for community rather than merely suggest a self-care practice? READ MORE

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News Briefs
COVID Deaths and Muslim Disenfranchised Grief
Researchers reported in Omega (Westport), a journal on death and dying, that Muslim bereaved experience disenfranchised grief when death rituals could not be provided due to COVID. These rituals include gathering at bedside to recite the Quran, positioning the dying person to face Mecca, providing ongoing physical comfort, treating the body post-death with gentleness and respect, and preparing the body for burial according to customs. READ MORE  News Brief - COVID Deaths and Muslim Grief
Challenge for Dementia Patients in Final Months
A recent study in The Journals of Gerontology found that people with dementia receive less health care in their final months than those without the disease. The research showed that hospice care was used less in the three months prior to death for people with dementia, suggesting that it is more challenging to identify when those with dementia are closer to death. READ MORE
News Brief - Maternal Mortality Trending Upward
Maternal Mortality Trends Upward
The World Health Organization reported that maternal mortality has either stalled or trended upward in some regions of the world, including North America and Europe. Almost 800 women die every day due to pregnancy-related complications. READ MORE

The Final Word
Dear One Absent This Long While
by Lisa Olstein

It has been so wet stones glaze in moss;

everything blooms coldly.

 

I expect you. I thought one night it was you

at the base of the drive, you at the foot of the stairs,

 

you in a shiver of light, but each time

leaves in wind revealed themselves,

 

the retreating shadow of a fox, daybreak.

We expect you, cat and I, bluebirds and I, the stove.

 

In May we dreamed of wreaths burning on bonfires

over which young men and women leapt.

 

June efforts quietly.

I’ve planted vegetables along each garden wall

 

so even if spring continues to disappoint

we can say at least the lettuce loved the rain.

 

I have new gloves and a new hoe.

I practice eulogies. He was a hawk

 

with white feathered legs. She had the quiet ribs

of a salamander crossing the old pony post road.

 

Yours is the name the leaves chatter

at the edge of the unrabbited woods.

 
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